Make Him Fall in Love With You - Modern Strategies For the Modern Couple!
Did you ever think you would have to work to make him fall in love with you? Had you realized how differently men and women viewed courtship and dating? Do you wonder when and if he'll ever be on the same schedule as you? If you're tired of waiting for him to come around and love you as much as you love him, don't give up just yet. Men can sometimes take a while longer when it comes to showing the depth of their emotions. Be patient and let that love grow. Once he opens his heart to you, he will make every effort to make it work. When a man finds a woman who truly warms his heart, he doesn't want to let her go.
Times have changed and some men find the new role of women difficult to assess. Should they be forward, or should they hold back? Should they compliment a woman or will she see it as an affront? If he asks her out on a date, will she be offended? But men are hardwired to chase and hunt. So what happens to that animal instinct when the rules are changed and women try to take the lead?
Well, confusion is what happens.
While many women now feel at ease with the thought of pursuing a man, many men are still rattled by the notion. The passive and powerless position women have put men in is less than desirable. Feeling hunted can be flattering on a certain level, but intuitively, it just doesn't feel right to the average man. It's too easy. It's too boring.
As the relationship develops, so does the confusion. The roles men once considered reserved for them are now being taken on by women. Incomes are now coming in from both sides, and women are sometimes bringing in more than the men. Decisions about households, children and lifestyles are being determined by women, leaving the men in search of their identity and value. With this sense of worthlessness comes added confusion and the potential for great frustration.
So perhaps a step back to a few old fashioned ways isn't so terrible. So what if women took a step back and allowed men to take and maintain some of the control. Women today are so afraid of allowing any of the control to slip from their hands that they are effectively smothering the men around them.
1 - Let him make the moves. Be receptive and open, but allow him those first few steps into the relationship.
2 - Lay off the pressure. Keep it fun and don't press for more than he is ready to give. Also, resist the urge to compete. Some light banter and playful boasting can be amusing, but don't push it too far. If he makes a professional claim, don't feel you have to better him every time. While you shouldn't play down your own self worth and accomplishments, you don't have to throw them all in his face either.
3 - Don't rush the big declarations of love. Give him time to feel his own emotions before pressuring him to reciprocate your growing love for him. Let your actions speak of how fond you are of him without pushing him to actually say those three little words. In time, when he's ready, he will say them, and you'll be happier knowing they came from his heart, not your insistence.
4 - Even as you grow closer, leave him some breathing space. Don't pester him to do what you want, when you want. Don't throw a fit because he went to see a game Sunday afternoon instead of going to the museum with you. He had a life before you and he should continue to have a life with you. Your relationship should enhance both your lives, not extinguish them.
5 - If you could forget about love and relationships and marriage for a few moments. Do you make each other laugh? Do you find him interesting? Is he a good listener? Is the silence comfortable and pleasant? Live in the moment and enjoy this time of discovery. With no pressure and no timetable to follow, you can both relax and let the love grow. You can make him love you without forcing the issue.
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This article is contributed by Tina Jones. Tina is part of the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women who want to understand male psychology, how to attract men, and find true love. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.
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